Totally agree. Whether I care to admit it or not, the shame program still runs in my operating system if something isn't done "right" or I feel like I failed. Not sure if it's possible to fully rid ourselves of that..
Speaking of "advice," I have heard the best way to build confidence is to get comfortable with failing. Easier said than done, but perhaps it's just a perspective shift or even as simple as a vernacular switch.
I think you and I are more risk-averse by nature and tend to over-think things to some extent and I'm also a planner; which in turn, at least for me, means that I'm less likely to pursue something if I haven't analyzed it from all possible angles and feel confident that I won't fail. Because like you said, failure is looked down upon and I don't want that. But you are right, in most situations, the worst that could happen is likely something we could bounce back from.
Yeah, there are definitely people are more willing to tolerate risk and go for it. We're more in the rule-follower or ask-for-permission-and-not-forgiveness camp.
Totally agree. Whether I care to admit it or not, the shame program still runs in my operating system if something isn't done "right" or I feel like I failed. Not sure if it's possible to fully rid ourselves of that..
Speaking of "advice," I have heard the best way to build confidence is to get comfortable with failing. Easier said than done, but perhaps it's just a perspective shift or even as simple as a vernacular switch.
You didn't fail, you just didn't succeed.
Or as Ned Flanders once said: "Loser is such a harsh word. Couldn't we just say the boy who doesn't win."
I think you and I are more risk-averse by nature and tend to over-think things to some extent and I'm also a planner; which in turn, at least for me, means that I'm less likely to pursue something if I haven't analyzed it from all possible angles and feel confident that I won't fail. Because like you said, failure is looked down upon and I don't want that. But you are right, in most situations, the worst that could happen is likely something we could bounce back from.
Yeah, there are definitely people are more willing to tolerate risk and go for it. We're more in the rule-follower or ask-for-permission-and-not-forgiveness camp.
I'm not sure the best way to banish that mentality. Maybe fail enough that you don't care about failing anymore.